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beginning to date
My husband died 8 months ago. I recently began a new job and during orientation for that job met a single man who I got along with immediately. I don't feel like I am ready to date. Hardly a day goes by that I don't miss Jim or that something doesn't jog my memory and I cry. Yet, I am lonely. This man has acknowledged my unreadiness to get involved, and he has offered his friendship until I am ready. I feel extremely guilty on one hand for even considering dating and on the other really enjoy C's company. I don't feel I am needy and just jumping into something for that reason. When does one know when it is time to move forward toward dating? I can barely bring myself to mark the single box on forms yet being with C. seems so natural and comfortable. I am really confused.
Response
You speak of feeling badly (guilty) when you ever think of dating or of enjoying someone's company; yet, when you actually do it, it feels natural and comfortable. Go with your feelings - they can never mislead you. Your thoughts can be confused but your feelings are always an accurate reflection of what is "true" for you.