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loss of baby
I don't know how to handle the grief of my baby daughter Terri.Terri didn't get to even live. Terri died inside me when I was pregnant. I was full term and for some reason the baby stopped moving inside of me then the doctors told me that I had to deliver her because she had no heart beat inside of me.Now I can't sleep nomore than half an hour at a time at night and I don't want to go get sleeping pills.
Response
Dawn, you are Terri's mom and always will be. She lived and died inside your body and that is a mystery that we will not understand in this lifetime.Your pain needs to be spoken and,I would like to imagine, that writing to the forum is either the beginning or part of your asking for support in carrying your grief. Having so little information about you and what your world is like makes it more difficult to respond but nothing can change the reality of your loss. It must be lived and we all need others to help us in times of great pain. No one can grieve alone. There are other
women who have walked this path before you as others will after you and sharing with each other can make what feels unbearable bearable. Your doctor's office or your local hospice (which you can find in the Yellow Pages )will be able to connect you with others who will know how to share your pain; others who know what you are feeling because they have walked this path.Sleep is essential to healing. The body needs sleep in order to be able to find the resources to meet the day. I understand your not wanting to use medication but sometimes short-term medication can be life saving. Do you have a doctor that you trust? There are
many choices to help you find healing sleep. It is a crucial
piece of your being able to integrate Terri into the reality
of your life journey.There are no answers to what has happened to you and Terri and your family but there is sometimes "comfort" in allowing what you are feeling to be shared. Please feel free to stay in contact with me either here or privately on the phone. There is no charge
for our services.