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Grandmothers Goodbye
My grandmother has been gone for over 15 years but, the pain of losing her as been fovever in my heart. I don't think I could ever remeber a time where I don't reminise about my grandmother and the way she always made me feel special growing up. I practically was raised by her when my mom and dad would be at work. Imiss her and the pain has never went away since I was there when she left. I was right by her side and I had been taken care of her before 3 months prioir. But the feeling I had was of lose and helplessness. I have not yet comes to term s of grandmother leaving and sometimes I think I will never. My questions will it ever get easier as I raise my children and introduce them to who their grandmother was and the things we used to do. Maybe with letting go will ultimatley let me breath again for her.
Response
I don't believe that the passage if time makes loss easier.
My belief is that what we do with that time, how we live our lives in that time, and how we weave the ones who have died into the fabric of our lives gives meaning to our loss. And when our loss has meaning, then it is easier to bear. Sharing your grandmother with your children; telling stories about her and doing things together that the 2 of you enjoyed doing will bring her back into your life and will bring her into your children's lives. Then you can feel her presence instead of her absence. I hope that this is helpful to you in some way. Thank you for writing and sharing your questions.