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Why is time my enemy regarding my son's death?
My son died this past March of a drug overdose; he was 35. I am learning many things through this process and doing my best to be patient with myself, family and others. It has now been 5 months since Jim died and I find myself angry that time is slipping away. A part of me wants time to stop - to hold still. I don't want it to be another month since he died; I don't want him dead longer. No one I've spoken to about this has any thoughts to offer. I feel that I am doing a good job of moving around in my life, but this time thing is quite loud in the moment. Any thoughts and/or suggestions are welcome. Namaste
Response
Time is not your enemy. While time does not heal, healing takes time. Time is also not "slipping away" - it is simply passing. As long as you breathe, you have infinite possibilities for weaving your son's life, his death, your love and your grief into the fabric of your life. As I have been gifted with the trust of mothers "birthing" their grief for a child who has died, I will share with you something they have taught me. Take your son with you into life. Don't leave his death in the past - this means you are experiencing his absence and presence in each moment. It is a lifetime's work.