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Where do I go from here?
In the past 2 and 1/2 years, my father died, I separated from my husband - 2 weeks after my father's death - we are now divorced, I was layed off from the job I had for 7 years, was out of work for a few months, found another job for 5 months and was let go. I was then out of work for four months and have been at a new job for a month. My ex-husband does contract work for the company I work for now, so I am constantly reminded of him at work. I knew that when I took the job, but I needed work. I still live in the house we shared together, so I am reminded of him when I'm at home. The friends we had were his and I don't see them anymore. I miss him and the life we had together. I've lost my father who i was very close to. I've lost my friends from work. It is a struggle to get up every day. I can only seem to do the minimum just to get by. I cry every day and feel like I've lost myself too. I don't know what to do with myself anymore, but I know I can't keep living this way.
Response
Sometimes when the emotional challenges are overwhelming, it is a good idea to focus on the physical. By taking steps to support your physical well-being, you strengthen your emotional body and can begin to find resource that wasn't apparent earlier. How are you caring for yourself? Are you eating well or haphazardly? Sugar? Caffeine? Alcohol? Are you taking time in nourishing settings whether at the beach, a park, or in a hot bath? Breathing, visualization and/or meditation audio tapes can be helpful as can keeping a journal or a sketchbook. Getting out of the mind and into the body can provide a respite from the havoc of loss and prepare you for life's continually changing possibilities.