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need advise
My Dad passed away in July 2000 he was only 62 years old, he had lung cancer. My Mom is 54 and I have a sister that is 32 and she has angelmans sysdrome and has to be taken care of, she needs help with every thing she does, eating, going to the bathroom, she wears diapers at night, and she does not talk. My Mom and Dad have always taking care of her and done all that can to make her life great. The problem I have is that My Mom is very lonely and isolated from the world. even though my sister goes to school 5 days a week from 9-2, my mom has no desire to do anything with her time, she has no hobbies, no special interest and she always has the attitude that it doesn't matter anyway, no matter what it is. The Holidays are very hard. She had a Heartattack in March of 2000 due to stress from my fathers illness. and she has always smoked and now I think she is smoking even more. I think that she dosen't care if she lives or dies, she is so lonely. I do what I can but it's just not enough, I need to know what I can to do get her help. thank you for any advice you may have.
Response
Perhaps there is a social worker associated with the school that your sister attends who might be able to be of some assistance to you in guiding you towards the support systems available in your community. It sounds like too much for you to take responsibility for at this time. Your mother's depression and alienation could be deeply seated in her "world view" and would need time, patience, love and professional support. I trust you can find an ally in the social services system - if there is no one at your sister's school, explore any religious affiliation she might have and also community mental health clinics. Good luck and try not to take on more than you can bear.