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anniversary of my son's death
I am not planning on marking the special 15th anniversary of my son's death in any different way than I have always marked it. Each and every anniversary is and will continue to be "special". In a very few more years my son will have been deceased or should I just come out and say the other"d" word DEAD for as long as he lived life as we know it here on earth. I don't know "why" but somehow the thought of this really bothers me. I know that all feelings are acceptable and not to be judged but why does this bother me more than the upcoming 15th anniversary?
Response
As one of my teachers used to invoke: "for all those who ever have or ever will" face this powerful transition - the time when your son's years alive on this planet are being outweighed by the years he has been (yes) dead - there seems to be a "divide" you are crossing. Perhaps this divide is asking you/us to let the number go and simply honor your son's life. Period. His life includes this death as each of our lives include our death. So by honoring his life you also honor (respect) his death in whatever ways speak to you. Day after day. Year after year. You are asking a question that most would fear to ask much less try to answer. I am opening one door - I am sure there are many others.