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little sis
My 42 year old sister died almost six months ago now. How do get over feeling like the world should have just stopped for even a second? How do you make it ok to see her almost teen children laughing and playing at her funneral and since? How do you shrug off her husband not wanting to see her put to rest?
Response
The first time someone I love died, I recall having the thought that it was shocking that the world did not seem to miss a beat! And there is a poem by David Whyte called "News of Death" in which he wonders how it is possible that the stars had come out that night when he received news that "he" had died! It seems that it is something we all share when our worlds stop: imagining that EVERYTHING has stopped and not just for us. In some sense, it adds to the pain of our grief realizing that we are ALSO out-of-step with Life. Your honest and brutal questions are your life's work. There is no one who can TELL you those answers. They are yours to find. But the questions themselves are enough right now. Can you live with those questions un-answered, right now? Please let me know. I look forward to hearing from you and apologize for the delay in my response. I was out of touch with my email.